Here comes a poser! A thought provoking one for that matter. Would you disclose your salary to your spouse? Chai! See people's responses. Who can one trust in this life. Let's read together what respondents told Saturday Punch when asked if they would disclose their salary to their spouses.
After reading these responses, please feel free to let us know your mind on this topic. Tells us if you are okay disclosing your salary to your spouse.
I May Not If I Earn More - Adejumo Mayowa (F)
It depends on the ethics of my job. I may resort to giving him a range of my pay package. The question is, is he ready to disclose his own to me? Also, how sure am I that after telling him, he won’t be hostile to me at home, especially if I earn more than him at the moment? The maturity of my spouse is important here; it will make me know whether to disclose the full amount to him or not. Actually, telling him will make life easier for both of us because it will help us plan for the future. However, there must be unity, love and maturity for that to happen.
I Can’t Hide It Forever - Olayinka Olalere (F)
Yes, I can tell him because as my husband, he is my only confidant. I don’t see any reason why what I earn should be kept as a secret from my spouse. If I do that, it is bad and I will not feel relaxed. Will I be able to hide it forever? He is my better-half because he is my spouse, not a concubine. He should know everything about me and vice-versa.
I’ll Let Him Know - Adeola Adejinle (F)
He needs to know because that is one of the benefits of marriage - being a true friend of each other and knowing about the other person intimately. I cannot profess to be a good and true wife if I keep secrets from my husband. God forbid that someone falls sick and he wants to help withdraw some money from my account and discovers that I had lied to him, he may not trust me again. And that is where trouble usually begins.
We Should Both Tell Each Other - Abosede Oluwaseyi (F)
He has every right to know just like I have the right to know his. We should not hide anything from each other for peace to reign in the home. There is no point hiding what could be revealed later. Even if he does not want to know, I will tell him. A man may not want to ask his wife because of ego, but as a good wife, I will tell him. The only exception is where one did not marry a friend as a husband, or one marries a man who squanders resources and does not know how to manage finances.
Telling Him Will Help Us Plan - Farayola Temitope (F)
If there is full disclosure, it will help us to plan together on savings and investments. We may both decide to keep parts of our income to embark upon a project. If we both keep what we earn from each other, it may hinder us from doing things together and that will not be healthy for our home. It may result to 'injury' and create a loophole for not trusting each other. It is better to disclose; it does no harm.
I’ll Tell Her - Segun Banjo (M)
It takes nothing away from my life if I disclose it to her. I think it is pride or ego problem when I refuse to be open to her in this matter. We are one and we should be open to each other for peace to reign in the home. If I keep it close to my chest, she may not trust me in other issues also and this may ruin the marriage. Disclosure bridges the gap that an enemy may want to create for us to have problems. As long as I am not a cheat or an illiterate person, nothing stops me from telling her.
Telling Her Will Breed Trust - Adejare Olubukola (M)
I will gladly tell her; and when there is any increase, I will inform her. She is my better half and I have no other woman out there who wants the best for me other than her. Telling her will keep her trusting me and it will grow our love. Keeping secrets such as this is what destroys many homes. It will avoid unnecessary quarrel over the state of finance. When she knows how much I earn, she will know when it is finished. On the other hand, if she is kept in the dark, she may not believe me if I tell her there is no money.
If I Hide It, She’ll Find Out - Tolu Oyeniran (M)
Yes, I will disclose it for purposeful planning so that we can both strive to attain financial growth. No matter how much I earn, disclosure is what brings security. There is no gain in hiding it. Even if a man tries to hide it, women have ways of finding out what they want to know except if they don’t want to bother about it. If companies could carry out annual audits of accounts so that they could plan ahead for the succeeding period, then I see no reason why a couple - who are in a lifetime venture -should be keeping secret about such a trivial issue.
There’s No Point Hiding It - Adekunle Kolawole (M)
Yes, I think it is a thing of disgrace if my wife does not know how much I earn. It shows how much I feel unsafe in hiding it from her. I don’t think I should allow money to be my master. As a couple, we are one; we should both know where it hurts either of us. Likewise, when things are rosy for either of us, there is no point keeping it. If we can see each other’s nakedness, then I don’t see any reason for keeping what I earn as a secret.
I Can’t Disclose The Exact Figure To Her - Hakeem Adeboye (M)
Salary disclosure on my part strongly depends on the amount of money I earn. If my salary is huge to the extent that it can take care of all our needs and much will still remain, I may not disclose the full amount to her. I will just give her a moderate figure. This is for security reasons. If you allow a woman to know how much you earn, the demand gets higher. She can even turn to one’s financial manager overnight.
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